- by Crystal Berry
- on 6 Nov, 2025
Most people think mentalism is about reading minds like in the movies-some magical power, a flash of insight, a sudden guess that’s always right. But real mentalism isn’t magic. It’s psychology, observation, and practice. If you want to learn how to do mentalism, you’re not looking for a secret spell. You’re looking for a skill you can build, day by day.
Start with observation, not tricks
The biggest mistake beginners make is jumping straight into memorized routines. You’ll look impressive for a second, then fall apart when someone doesn’t play along. Real mentalism begins with watching people. Not just listening to what they say, but noticing what they don’t say.Try this: Sit in a coffee shop for 15 minutes. Watch five strangers. What’s their posture? Do they tap their foot when nervous? Do they avoid eye contact when lying? Do they repeat phrases they’ve heard before? These are clues. Mentalists call them behavioral anchors. They’re not magic. They’re patterns.
Keep a small notebook. Write down what you see. After a week, you’ll start recognizing the same behaviors across different people. That’s your foundation. No trick required. Just attention.
Learn the cold reading technique
Cold reading is the backbone of mentalism. It’s not about knowing someone’s secrets-it’s about guiding them to reveal their own. You say something vague enough to fit many people, then watch their reaction. If they nod, you expand. If they frown, you pivot.Here’s a simple line to practice: “I’m sensing someone close to you who passed unexpectedly. They were proud of you, but didn’t always show it.” That works for 80% of people. Why? Because nearly everyone has lost someone, and most of us have felt misunderstood by a parent, sibling, or friend.
Practice this with friends. Don’t tell them you’re doing cold reading. Just say, “I had a weird feeling about you today.” Then let them talk. Don’t interrupt. Don’t correct. Just listen. Afterward, ask yourself: What did they reveal? What did you assume? What did you miss?
Over time, you’ll learn how to adjust your language. You’ll stop saying “you” and start saying “someone.” You’ll replace “I know” with “I’m getting.” That’s the shift from fake mysticism to real psychological control.
Practice memory techniques
Mentalists don’t memorize everything. They memorize systems. One of the most powerful is the Major System. It turns numbers into words. For example:- 1 = T or D sound
- 2 = N
- 3 = M
- 4 = R
- 5 = L
So the number 31 becomes “M-T” → “mat.” 54 becomes “L-R” → “law.” Now you can turn a phone number like 541-312 into “Law-Ten” and picture a lawnmower cutting a ten-foot tall lawn. It’s absurd, and that’s why it works.
Use this daily. Memorize license plates. Remember grocery lists. Turn dates into stories. The goal isn’t to impress people with your memory-it’s to train your brain to make connections fast. That’s what mentalism needs: speed, not superpowers.
Master the power of suggestion
You don’t need to force someone to think of a card or a number. You just need to guide them there without them realizing it. That’s suggestion.Try this: Hold up four playing cards-Ace, King, Queen, Jack. Ask someone to pick one. Say, “Most people feel drawn to the Queen. She’s elegant. Powerful. But you’re different. You’re going to pick the one that feels most… natural to you.”
Now watch. Most people will pick the Queen. Why? Because you planted the idea, then gave them permission to reject it. That’s the reverse psychology trick. You didn’t tell them what to choose. You made them feel like they chose freely.
Practice this with everyday objects. Ask someone to think of a color. Say, “I’m thinking of red. But I know you’re not going to pick that. You’ll go for something calmer.” Nine times out of ten, they’ll pick blue or green.
The trick isn’t in the words. It’s in the tone. Slow down. Pause after key phrases. Let silence do the work.
Build your own routines
Don’t copy routines from YouTube. They’re designed for stage performance, not intimate settings. You need something that fits your personality.Start small. One trick. One effect. For example: The “book test.” You ask someone to open a book to any page, read a word silently, and remember it. You then name the word. Sounds impossible? Here’s how to make it work:
- Use a book you’ve memorized. Pick one with a clear structure-like a dictionary or a cookbook.
- Before the trick, casually glance at page 117. Memorize the first word on that page.
- Ask them to open the book. Say, “Most people open to page 117. It’s just the right spot.”
- They open it. You say, “I’m getting the word ‘butter.’”
It works because 117 is a common page to land on. And if they don’t land there? You say, “I’m sorry, I must’ve misread the energy. Try again.” Then repeat with a different page. You’ll get it right eventually. And they’ll forget the times you were wrong.
Build one trick like this. Practice it until it feels natural. Then add another. Don’t rush. Mentalism is a slow art.
Record and review your sessions
You’ll think you’re doing great. Then you watch the video. And you realize you said “um” every three seconds. You leaned forward too much. You smiled when you should’ve stayed serious.Record every practice session. Even if it’s just you talking to your dog. Watch it later. Ask yourself:
- Where did I lose their attention?
- When did I sound unsure?
- What did I say that made them laugh or look confused?
Adjust. Repeat. Record again. After ten sessions, you’ll notice a shift. Your voice steadies. Your pauses feel intentional. Your gestures become part of the story, not distractions.
Why most people fail at mentalism
They treat it like a party trick. They want applause. They want to shock people. But mentalism doesn’t work that way.The best mentalists make people feel understood. Not fooled. Not amazed. Understood. That’s the difference between a magician and a mentalist.
If you’re practicing to impress, you’ll burn out. If you’re practicing to connect-to see people more clearly, to understand how their minds work-you’ll keep going. And that’s when the real magic happens.
What to avoid
- Don’t use fake psychic jargon. “I’m channeling your spirit guide” sounds ridiculous after 2020.- Don’t rely on stooges or hidden devices. Real mentalism is clean. No wires. No assistants. Just you and your brain.
- Don’t perform for skeptics first. They’ll tear you apart. Practice with open-minded friends first.
- Don’t rush. You can’t learn mentalism in a weekend. It takes months to build the habits. Years to master the subtleties.
Can anyone learn mentalism, or do you need special talent?
Anyone can learn mentalism. It’s not about being born with a gift. It’s about training your attention, memory, and communication skills. People who seem naturally good at it have just practiced longer. There’s no secret brain wiring-just habits.
How long does it take to get good at mentalism?
You’ll notice improvement in 30 days if you practice 15 minutes a day. You’ll feel confident performing for small groups in 3-6 months. Mastery takes years. That’s normal. Mentalism isn’t a skill you finish-it’s a way of seeing the world.
Do I need special tools or props to practice mentalism?
No. The best mentalists use everyday objects: pens, books, coins, phones. You don’t need a deck of cards to start. You need a notebook, a quiet place to observe, and the patience to listen. Tools come later, once you understand how people think.
Is mentalism the same as magic?
No. Magic hides how something is done. Mentalism makes people believe they revealed something themselves. A magician pulls a rabbit from a hat. A mentalist makes you think you chose the rabbit. One is sleight of hand. The other is psychology.
Can mentalism be used to manipulate people?
Yes, it can be. But that’s not what it’s for. Mentalism reveals how easily people are influenced. The real power is in using that knowledge to connect, not to control. The best mentalists use their skills to make others feel seen-not tricked.
Next steps
Start tomorrow. Not next week. Not after you buy a book. Tomorrow.Go to a public place. Watch five people. Write down one thing you noticed about each. No judgment. Just facts. Then, at dinner, say one thing to someone you know that proves you paid attention. “You’ve been quiet today. Did something happen with your sister?”
That’s mentalism. Not magic. Not tricks. Just noticing. And caring enough to say something about it.